7 Ways to Tell Your Boyfriend You Cheated...

By Heather Jensen

  

Learning how to tell your boyfriend you cheated is nerve-wrecking. It can make you physically sick just thinking about it, right? You’ve done the deed though; now it’s time to ‘fess up, time to tell your boyfriend you cheated on him. Cheating is not good, it can cause a lot of pain, hurt and downright anger. It happens though and if you are guilty of cheating, you’ve got to figure out the right ways to tell your boyfriend you cheated on him, instead of skirting the issue.

1. Keep Calm

When you are trying to tell your boyfriend you cheated on him, you’ve got to make sure that you stay calm. This means not getting into hysterics and crying – right away. That can probably come later, but you want to stay calm at first, because truthfully, this is something that you did and you have to own up to it.

2. Don’t Do It in Public

Never, ever try to defuse the situation or manipulate his response by doing it in public. While his reaction might not be the best in the world, you’ve got to face it. You’ve got to make sure to tell your boyfriend you cheated in private. It’s a private matter and no matter how he reacts, he has the right to find out in private versus in public.

3. Be Honest

When you are dealing with cheating, you’ve got to be upfront and honest with your boyfriend. You want to make sure you tell your boyfriend you cheated as honestly as possible. How long ago was it, what night was it, who was it with? These are all questions that he is going to ask about and you want to make sure that you can be honest about them.

4. Be Outright

When you do finally find a way to tell your boyfriend you cheated, be direct and outright. You don’t want to beat around the bush and just mention that you have something to talk to him about. You want to make sure that you are totally outright with him. Just tell him that you cheated, spit it out.

5. Have a Plan

As you figure out how to tell your boyfriend you cheated on him, you want to make sure you have a plan. Don’t do it after a nice dinner and just before you part ways. Instead, why not just go over to his house, be direct and open and just tell him. Have a plan, but make sure that the plan includes you being forthright.

6. Realize You Hurt Him

Girls, you have to understand that when you are learning how to tell your boyfriend you cheated on him and you finally spit it out, you are going to hurt him. It is just something natural, something that is going to happen. You hurt him. You’re going to hurt him and there might not be anything that you can do to make him feel better.

7. Understand He Might Need Time

Finally girls, the last thing that you’ll need to understand when you are telling your boyfriend you cheated on him is that he might need time. He might need time away from you, time to separate from you, time that you aren’t around. You have to give him it, no matter how hard it is.
I understand that there are circumstances that happen and situations that you might find yourself in, but telling your boyfriend you cheated on him is going to be hard. Very hard. Do you girls have any other ways to tell your boyfriend you cheated that you have used?

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7 Reasons to Take Him Out of The Friend-Zone...

By Kelly Marcus 

The friend-zone is a perilous place, so it’s important to think about all the reasons to take him out of the friend-zone. Every girl has had that one guy friend she has put in the zone. That guy who they have crushed on forever and can’t decide if they should take the next step with them or not. A friend-zone is a place where we put the guys we can’t see as boyfriend material. Well, I am here to tell you that a guy you put in the friend-zone might make the best boyfriend yet. So go ahead, take the plunge, and listen to these reasons you should take him out of the friend-zone

1. He Has Seen You at Your Worst

This is probably one of the best reasons to take him out of the friend-zone. He was the guy that you went crying to when your last boyfriend ended up being a idiot. He has seen you stuff your face with chocolate, with tears streaming down your face. The best part?  He still likes you. He knows that you are not perfect and you have bad days, and he doesn’t care.

2. Your Friends Already like Him

How hard is it for your friends to like your current boyfriend? Do you friends already like your BFF guy friend? The answer is simple! They know he will treat you well and that you two already have fun together. And they will absolutely give you their blessing when you two decide to take your relationship out of the friend-zone.

3. He Knows The Mistakes Your past Boyfriends Have Made

When you broke up with all those ex-boyfriends for all different reasons, he was there listening to you complain about them. He was paying attention. That guy in the friend-zone knows what deal breakers you have in a relationship, and he will avoid them like the plague, if it means having you as his girlfriend.

4. He Knows What Makes You Smile

He’s already your friend, so he must already make you laugh and smile. He knows how to make you laugh like an idiot and he loves doing it. Being able to make you laugh is one of the most important qualities in a boyfriend!  He understands your sense of humor, that’s rare!

5. He Likes You for You

This, too, is one of the most defining reasons to take him out of the friend-zone. He isn’t interested in the way you dress when you go out to a club, or how pretty you look when you are all done up. He knows the real you. The one who wears sweatpants and stays in eating ice cream with no make up on. That is the girl he likes.

6. Your Relationship Is Natural

You guys already get along and have fun together. So you two together, will be just like your friendship…just a bit more intimate. You don’t have to try too hard with him. You two just click, which is something that is so important to have in a relationship.

7. Friends Make The Best Boyfriends

So what’s the greatest reason to take him out of the friend-zone? Your boyfriend should be your best friend, so it just makes sense that your best guy friend would make the perfect boyfriend. He will be there for you, he likes you for you, and he will be a great friend. Which is all you really need in a perfect boyfriend.
There are lots of great reasons to take him out of the friend-zone, you just have to step away from the situation and look at all of his amazing qualities too. Have you ever put a guy in the friend-zone? Did you decide to take him out of the friend-zone? Let me know why you decided to date him and if he ended up being a good boyfriend.

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8 Signs Your Long Distance Relationship Is Ending...

By Merarri Martinez

 

It’s heartbreaking when you begin to notice the signs your long distance relationship is ending when you really want things to work out. But you are cheating yourself out of true love and genuine happiness when you hang on to a fading long distance relationship. A long distance relationship takes a special kind of commitment and extreme perseverance from both people to succeed. If you feel that your boyfriend isn’t doing his part to make it work and his interest is dwindling, you may be in a dying long distance relationship. So ladies, if you are ready to face your relationship reality-I’m going to share with you the 8 signs your long distance relationship is ending.

 

1. There is a dramatic change in your communication routines
You start to notice that he doesn’t reply to your text messages, calls and e-mails. It seems like he can’t even be bothered to contact you. When he does talk to you, the conversation is short and lacks quality. This change usually means your boyfriend is losing interest in the relationship.

2. He always has an excuse ready

He is full of excuses when you suggest using webcams or a messenger program so you can spend some time together online. He will turn you down with various excuses like he is too busy, too tired or already has plans for that evening. If you have to plead with him to hang out with you, you are definitely in a dying long distance relationship. He would make spending time with you a priority if he wanted to continue the relationship,

3. You feel unimportant to him

If you bring this particular subject up with him, he will dismiss your feelings and be unwilling to talk about it. Your boyfriend should do everything he can to make you feel cherished and loved even if he is far away. If it seems like you are taking a backseat to other priorities in his life, maybe its time to let go of him.

4. He doesn’t talk about the future

A long distance couple frequently talks about the future because the ultimate goal is to live together in the same place one day. One of the biggest signs your long distance relationship is ending is that he doesn’t seem interested in making future plans with you. The awesome conversations about getting married, names of your future kids and where you will both live have completely stopped.

5. He doesn’t use endearing nicknames for you anymore

A healthy couple enjoys using many terms of endearment whenever they speak to each other. Not only because its fun but because it can make you feel emotionally closer to one another. He may already have one foot out the door if he stopped calling you silly and sweet nicknames like hunny bunny, baby cakes or love muffin.

6. He doesn’t want to discuss any problems in your relationship

Most guys are natural problem solvers so if he shows no interest in improving the current state of affairs, it may signal a dying long distance relationship. If he has really given up on the relationship, he doesn’t feel the need to solve its issues. Don’t force the matter because you can’t make someone love you.

7. He meets a girl that lives closer to him

He insists they are just friends but you suspect that there is something fishy going on. When you invite him to come visit you on the weekend, he will say he already has plans with her. This is a neon flashing sign that he has replaced you with someone else. It’s safe to say that he probably won’t mind if you find a substitute for him.

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7 Ways to Get Beautiful Skin with Baking Soda....

By Lisa Washington 

 

Want to know how to use baking soda for skin care? Baking soda is known for being a staple in the kitchen but it’s also one of the most useful and not to mention inexpensive ingredients around when it comes to DIY skin care! Grab a box of baking soda from your kitchen and get ready to see some big changes courtesy of these baking soda beauty fixes!

1. Facial Wash

When you’re thinking of ways to use baking soda for your skin, try it out as a facial wash! Combine 2 teaspoons of baking soda and 1 teaspoon of warm water and stir to create a paste. Splash your face with water, grab some of the mixture and gently wash your face in a circular motion. Then, rinse your face with warm water and pat your face dry.

 2. Exfoliator
 

The many uses for baking soda for skin care also include using it as an exfoliator. Some people find that plain baking soda on its own is grainy enough to be a gentle scrub. You can also add a teaspoon to your cleanser or add a tablespoon each of baking soda and water along with 2 teaspoons of oat flour to get a deeper cleaning

 

  3. Foot Soak

The skin on our feet is usually the last place we think of when it comes to baking soda for skin care but they need love too! After a hard day or even a not so hard day, treat your feet to a relaxing soak of baking soda and warm water. Using baking soda as a foot soak will not only get your little piggies squeaky clean but it’ll also soften your skin! Mix ½ cup of baking soda for every gallon of water in your basin, soak for about a half hour and follow it up with a thick cream for sparkly and smooth skin!

 4. Detox Bath

We’ve been talking about how to use baking soda for skin but it also makes for a fabulous detoxing bath! Detox baths can help your body to eliminate toxins and your skin will love the nourishing minerals from the ingredients! Be sure you try this in the evening because you’ll likely feel tired. You might even feel weak or flu-ish from detoxing, so make sure you stay hydrated! Add 1-2 cups of baking soda and 2 cups of Epsom salts while you draw your bath and sit in it for about 30 minutes.

  5. Sunburn Relief

A great way to use baking soda for your skin is to use it to treat sunburns. Make a cool compress by soaking a clean cloth soaked in a mix of baking soda and water or make a bath by adding ½ cup baking soda to a lukewarm bath to relieve burning, irritating and itchy skin. It’s a great substitute when you don’t have any Aloe on hand.

6. Nail Care

So far we’ve talked about how to use baking soda for skin care but it’s a fab nail cleaner so I had to include this on the list! You can use baking soda to give your nails and cuticles a good cleaning or you can use it to treat nail fungus. To clean your nails, pour some baking soda on your nail brush and scrub. To treat nail fungus, mix two parts baking soda and one part water to make a paste to apply all around the infected nail. Let it sit for 10 minutes and repeat up to two times a day until the fungus is gone.

7. Acne Mask

If you have acne, try using baking soda for skin care in the form of an acne mask. After washing your face, mix a few drops of baking soda with warm water until you have a paste and apply it all over your face. Leave it on for about 5-10 minutes and rinse off with warm water. Baking soda will not only clean and smooth your skin, as we found from the previous recipes, but it also helps remove blackheads!
We can all easily learn how to use baking soda for skin and get great results! I love finding cheap and easy ways to make my very own beauty products! Keep in mind that although baking soda is natural, some skin types tend to not love it as much others, so always test it out first and limit using these treatments to once a week! Have you ever used baking soda on your skin before? Will you try out any of these baking soda skin care products?

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7 Stylish Backpacks to Sport for Fall...

By Megan Correia 

 

Of all the bag trends this season nothing quite hits nostalgia the way these stylish backpacks to sport for fall do. Although more popular among the student body, backpacks reached the fashion set through its multipurpose street wear that’s serving both function and style. This ultimate utilitarian bag is taking on all shapes and sizes in luxurious, trendy options from exotic animal skins to classic quilted leathers. Prepare to get strapped into this trend with these stylish backpacks to sport for fall.

1. Leather Backpack

A classic leather backpack is the ideal go-to bag for the girl on the go. Leather offers backpacks a sleek and sophisticated finish that’s suitable for the cool and casual urbanite or the uptown lady. For a simple and elegant approach to this stylish and functional bag, a leather backpack fits the bill for your carryall needs. Find reinvented styles like the Coach backpack pictured above priced at $260 or others in the $50 to $300 range from ASOS, Aldo, Nine West and Nasty Gal.

2. Croc Print Backpack

A luxe animal skin like croc leather is the ultimate in lavish and trendy backpacks to sport this season. The combination of cool texture, sleek material and lustrous gloss makes croc print backpacks the perfect high fashion sack to throw over your shoulder for all settings.

3. Quilted Backpack

For a simple and classic take reminiscent of Chanel style, try a quilted backpack on for size. It’s soft-pillowed detail and supple leather team up to create a cool and classic bag with vintage inspiration that’s still modern and suitable for everyday wear.

4. Glitter Backpack

Ultra-glam glitter makes backpacks sparkle and shine in the spotlight this season. A glitter backpack makes a fun and playful statement while being sweet and feminine. Metallic finishing’s and materials accent glitter details for high shine style.

5. Colored Backpack

To inject a fun and bold pop into your wardrobe, opt for a brightly colored backpack to set you apart from the crowd. Look for luxe finishing’s and cool textures like fur or animal hair to elevate your bag to haute couture status instead of shy schoolgirl.

6. Studded Backpack

For an edgy and tough take on the backpack for fall, strong studding and metallic spikes give stylish sacks a rock ‘n’ roll vibe. Pair your studded backpack with a sleek and sexy leather jacket or graphic sweatshirt for an edgy look where good girl meets bad.

7. Denim Backpack

A denim backpack is a cool and casual alternative to more fashion forward sacks. Don’t be fooled, denim is just as chic and trendy as any other backpack. The durable denim material will let your backpack outlast any wear and tear throughout the season and is easy to wash and care for, making a denim backpack the perfect practical pick for savvy fashionistas everywhere.
Trade in your totes this season for a roomier, versatile and equally trendy option in the shape of these stylish backpacks to sport for fall. Toss a stylish sack over your fashionable shoulder for a functional throwback that delivers on style and space. Which of these backpacks will you be sporting for fall?

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6 Signs Your Date Is Interviewing You for Marriage

 

1/ He asks you where you see yourself in 5, 10, and 20 years

….before bothering to ask about where you’re from or what your hobbies are. If he starts firing away suggestions like a career counselor and pulling up recent salary reports on his iPad, start scanning the room for the nearest exit.

2. By the end of the date, you feel like you know very little about her
 

But you know a ton about her friends who are married, engaged, engaged to be engaged, or going through reproductive challenges.

3. He focuses more on the the past and future, not the present
 

He has no idea what you do for a living, but you feel like you came out of a Freudian-style therapy session by the end of dinner and a movie. Ruh-roh: your date may be gauging whether your baggage and goals are compatible with his. But hey, awesome breakthrough about your mother.

4. She asks about your parents’ marriage during the first round of drinks
 

Extra points if she has you dissecting the real reasons behind their divorce by the end of the night.

5. He asks about the status of your debt and student loans
 

He’s either trying to figure out how responsible you are or he’s asking because he wants to be your sugar daddy and pay ‘em off for you. Fingers crossed! (Though if he starts having you fill out life insurance forms, run and make sure all of your major organs are still inside your body.)

6. She grills you about the length of all of your past relationships
 

It’s one thing to briefly ask how long your last relationship. It’s another to ask you to work your way back to your summer camp girlfriend in 4th grade. And then to ask you, “So what went wrong? Why couldn’t you commit?”

--Written by Diana Vilibert

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Dating Tips Advice

Sure, we can give you dating tips, but sometimes it's good to get it straight from the source. That's why we asked men to spill on the advice they wish women knew about getting to know a new guy.

By Lauren Otis

Be Open Minded

"Please don't assume we're going to the nicest restaurant in the city because I won't take you there. I'll take you to a dive bar with amazing burgers to see how you react. If you're flowing with it and cool, we've got a winner. If you seem offended by it, that's as far as we go."
—Steve M. 

Don't Over-Research

"Girls should try to avoid pre-judging before a first date. Whether it's someone you're meeting online or it's someone your friends know, aim to drop the things you know about them and start fresh. Don't ask your friends to tell you everything they can because you can end up with a tainted view of what to expect. Half the fun of going out is getting to know someone new, so allow yourself to let that happen organically." —Oliver B.

Check Your Baggage

"Please don't compare us to your exes—out loud or even in your head. Sometimes horror stories about them can make for fun discussion, but don't ever bring your ex into the conversation if it's not called for. When I hear about a girl's man, I'm assuming we probably shouldn't be on that date period. If she literally can't keep his name out of her mouth for a couple of hours, it makes me feel like she's clearly not over past issues. I don't want to pick up a saved video game: I'm here to start new."
—Orlando O.

  

(Or at Least Attempt To)

"I always appreciate the offer to split the check, even though I never allow it. If we end up grabbing drinks later and a woman insists on paying, I really like that a lot. It shows me that she’s genuinely interested in spending time with me as opposed to wanting to be wined and dined regardless of who she’s with." —Nate N.

 But Don't Recoil If He Doesn't Reach for the Bill…

"If the guy doesn't say something and take the check off the table to pay, it's probably fair to assume that you're going Dutch. There are different reasons that a guy might not pick up the tab (some that might not have anything to do with you), but if you're into him, avoid looking too disappointed. You don't want him to think you expected it." —Josh F.

You Are What You Eat

"The food you choose on dates says volumes about your character. Dainty foods (read: salads) seem to have a low correlation to fun and enjoyment. First few dates, make the food good, simple and completely forgettable so you can focus on each other." —Max S.

Be Open Minded

"Please don't assume we're going to the nicest restaurant in the city because I won't take you there. I'll take you to a dive bar with amazing burgers to see how you react. If you're flowing with it and cool, we've got a winner. If you seem offended by it, that's as far as we go."
—Steve M. 

 It Pays to Pay

(Or at Least Attempt To)

"I always appreciate the offer to split the check, even though I never allow it. If we end up grabbing drinks later and a woman insists on paying, I really like that a lot. It shows me that she’s genuinely interested in spending time with me as opposed to wanting to be wined and dined regardless of who she’s with." —Nate N.

Know You're Awesome

"I like a girl to be confident going into a date, even if it's the first one. The normal guy-girl interactions on initial outings usually fall somewhere between awkward and really awkward (which is understandable, especially if it's a blind date), so having a girl go the opposite route not only makes her more intriguing—it's also a total turn-on."
—Alex S

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Be Honest

"Say what you mean. Girls have this tendency of expecting guys to read between the lines, then ending up disappointed. If you want something, be specific and avoid causing yourself unnecessary stress. We're usually pretty open to new ideas." —Adrian B.

Don't Jump to
(Sexual) Conclusions

"Please don't critique or be too harsh about someone's sexual performance the first time you hook up with him. Things are new and you aren't familiar with what the other likes yet. Until you've had time to communicate about that stuff, it's impossible to weigh them against your former boyfriend of three years." —Greg B.

Keep the First Date
Short and Sweet...

"First dates are best kept quick and noncommittal for both parties—unless you've known each other for a while. If I meet a girl and get her number, the first time we go out shouldn't be a three-hour opera and dinner afterwards. What if we end up not liking each other? Then we're just stuck and that's rude. Opt for something that gives you both an easy out, like lunch or a drink. If you guys have a great time, you're both left wanting more."
—Greg G.

Think Like a Man

"If a girl and I end up hooking up quickly, it doesn't necessarily mean I've written her off. All she needs to do to maintain my interest is…be awesome. Be interesting and interested in me. Plan cool events. For example, 'Hey, I've got an extra ticket to this show tonight. Want to go?' Go out and do things I'd want to do, and then invite me. Chances are I'll probably join you. Be willing to embrace the things men love."
—Sam M.

Speak Up

"I get frustrated when I feel like I'm constantly the one driving the conversation—it happens to me a lot and it feels a little unfair. It's hard to get the sense that I'm getting to know someone when I'm tasked with doing all the talking. On the flip side though, it's a rough night when a girl goes on about herself at length without asking me anything about myself. I like it best when someone can counter me with questions of their own." —Noah A.

Don't Talk Smack

"Don't hate on other girls. I actually had one girl, while we were in the middle of a conversation, look over at another girl and say, 'Eww, look at that girl's dress.' The way she said it sounded so bitchy and I wasn't into it at all. Cattiness isn't an attractive quality." —Nick L.

Give Thanks

The guy will almost always hold the door open, pay for dinner, etc., but it's still nice to hear a thank you and know that it's all appreciated. It really goes a long way. I've almost come to stop expecting them so it's especially nice when I hear them. If it doesn't happen in the beginning, he'll think it'll never happen." —Tyler L.

Get Friendly

"It can take the edge off to meet with a group of friends. Invite your guy and his crew to hang in a big group. That way you can get a feel for what he's normally like around his buddies and it'll let you both relax a bit more. You can tell a lot about someone by who they surround themselves with." 

Corey O.

Reach Out. Literally.

"I like when a girl gets physical with me, but not in the sexual sense. It's more in an affectionate way. I love when she'll touch my arms or something like that as we're talking. It lets me know she's interested without being over the top and shows me we're both there for the same reason. We like each other and it's clear."
—Stephen S.

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